I wish you and those dear to you a very happy and healthy 2009. And thank you very much for taking the time to visit my blog and consider my views. I truly appreciate it.
I emphasized the word "happy" in the headline for a reason. If you're interested in succeeding in the marketplace for products, services, events and causes in 2009, you must shift your strategic emphasis from "selling stuff" to "creating happiness." I'm being quite sincere (not serious. I'm seldom serious any more).
I know what you're probably thinking: "Happiness? C'mon. Do we even know what makes people happy?" Well, we have a pretty good idea. Happiness is a good day. Happiness is something a little extra to look forward to. Happiness is a little give and take. Happiness is a little novelty and entertainment. But happiness is also confirmation of ones self-worth. It's a few peak experiences. It's making a difference. It's making sure that the story of our lives has a feeling of progress and growth.
I leave you on this eve of an incredibly exciting new year with an excerpt from my latest book. Enjoy and God speed:
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Seeking happiness
The great Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius wrote, “Life is opinion.” I firmly believe in that sentiment. So I’m sure that everyone has a different opinion about what specifically contributes to happiness. That said, there does seem to be consensus about what generally makes people happy. And I’m talking about happiness while participating in today’s modern marketplace, which is primarily an individualistic, do-it-yourself, and better oneself pursuit. First, let’s make a distinction between near term happiness and happiness in the more distant future. Let’s assume for a moment that you love burgers and fries, which isn’t much of a leap, considering how you’ve been attacking that plate.
Funny guy.
And let’s also assume that you’ve just been diagnosed with dangerously high blood cholesterol.
Gee, thanks.
You’re welcome. So now, when you go out for lunch and decide to forgo the double cheeseburger and curly fries and opt, instead, for the plain salad with balsamic vinaigrette, are you doing it to make yourself happy?
I suppose I’m doing it to avoid pain and suffering in the future.
Right, you’re trading happiness now for happiness later. “Happy now” is the proverbial hamburger. It’s about novelty and engagement; pleasurable sights, sounds, tastes, conversations and experiences. “Happy life” is the salad. It’s about improving oneself (mentally, physically and spiritually), rituals and relationships, family and friends, learning new skills, growth and giving back. So even though your impulsive self was telling you to order the burger, your more future-focused self won you over. We play that balancing of life choices game -happy now vs. happy life - all the time, moment by moment. The ultimate goal is to avoid the either - or paradox and satisfy both our happy now and happy life desires. Eat the hypothetical “good for you” hamburger, if you will.
So we should develop models which satisfy both selves? Isn’t that the same thing as saying we should appeal to both the emotional and rational minds of the customer?
I don’t really see it that way. I prefer to distinguish it in terms of the “thinking” dimension of the mind, which is very capable of making irrational decisions, and the “feeling” dimension, which at times is quite rational. The mind is like a small child walking a very big dog. The child - the thinking or “should” self - is the slower, weaker, more conscious part, which is trying to direct the faster and more powerful, automatic part of the brain - the feeling or “want” self. And it can do so quite successfully, especially if the dog - the “want” self - has been trained. But suppose a dangerous character swaggers out in front of them?
The child will be following the dog’s lead.
That’s right, and in fact, that may be the most appropriate course of action. You see, sometimes the more reflexive part of the brain - the feeling part - is more rational than the deliberative part; like when it senses that someone is untrustworthy and follows its gut despite all of the evidence to the contrary. By the same respect, there are many “happy now” desires that are quite rational, and many “happy life” ones that are not, and vice versa.
So that’s a long way of saying, yes . . . appeal to both selves. That’s what the very successful, LiveStrong® brand did; it appealed to the “want-self’s” desire to signal its identity, and the “should-self’s” desire to help people. Ask yourself: how can I resolve the want - should, happy now - happy life conflict inherent in my customer’s decision-making calculus? How can I appeal to the stressed out, impulsive, novelty-seeking, socially-obsessed customer who also wants to satisfy his purpose-driven, better oneself future-self?