Watch highlights from Tom's speeches
The Business of Belief: Why We Believe What We Believe in Business and Life
"Clever people seem not to feel the natural pleasure of bewilderment, and are always answering questions when the chief relish in life is to go on asking them."
Bloggers appear to me to be a very clever bunch of people. ;)
Do you like quotes as much as I do? Here's one that I read on a tea bag: "Winners are like tea bags. They get stronger the longer they're in hot water." Read it again. Does that make any sense to you? Me either. The longer a tea bag stays in hot water, the weaker it gets. The water gets stronger, not the bag.
I've been in hot water. Often. And during those critical times of escalating temperature I discovered that it was critical to stay active and work my way out as soon as possible. If I didn't, I became hard-boiled. When it happens to you, forget about past mistakes and disappointments and focus instead on the now. Surround yourself with passionate, positive people. Set challenging goals with detailed plans and then go at it with gusto. Don't sit around and internalize. Externalize! Stir the place up with activities designed to create interaction with customers. Relish the questions. And I assure you that you'll find yourself rising to the top again, like cream.
And the minute you feel the passion for your business start to leave your blood, get out. By all means take some time to step away and assess the situation. But it shouldn’t take long. Simply answer these three questions:
1. Do I believe passionately in the value that my business provides to people?
2. Do the people I work with believe passionately in me?
3. Do I believe passionately in myself?
If you answered “No” to any of those questions, I’d humbly suggest that it’s time for you to move on to something new. Listen to your heart. You’ll never be truly successful or fulfilled without the passionate belief in all three.
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great post - again hitting a nerve with me (as i'm sure with all people who find themselves facing many challenges).
maybe that quote should read ""Winners are like eggs. They get harder the longer they're in hot water."
dk
Posted by: DK | March 18, 2005 at 05:10 AM
Brilliant Tom
I am passionate about all three and I feel I have always been that way about my work.
One of the chapters in my book is called 'Passion with a Side Sald of Process'
I am absolutely sold on passion - it underpins all I do at work but I think a small amount of process is also important.
I believe we should have a gallon of passion and a pint of process - the problem is most organisations is that they have have a gallon of process and a pint of passion!! ...hence all the initiative, enthusiam and passion is queezed out of passionate people who then cannot afford to leave - a real tragedy!!
Keep rattling the cage my friend - your words are powerful.
Trevor
Posted by: Trevor Gay | March 18, 2005 at 05:15 AM
"Winners are like tea bags. They get stronger the longer they're in hot water."
eh did not get it ?? Well, take a look at this spin point..
The bag becomes stronger.. whereas the tealeaves 'in the bag' become weaker .. the essense of the bag (the container) sheds the essense of the Contents to the other body (ie. Water). Thus the Water be comes Stronger, the Tea leave (in the bag) become weaker) and the Bag remains strong , thru out the process. !!
Thus, if take into consideration you are (as the bag), then whats in your (the core essense of you) needs to permute outwards and enhancing the flavour of life surrending ..without the you, being broken. A good reverse analogy here is "pent up rage" spewing out ..which disruptes the flavour of life around you !!
Comments pls ?? :)-
Posted by: /pd | March 18, 2005 at 09:49 AM
Great point /pd. Reminds me of this story.
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.
Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see."
"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.
Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma.
The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?" Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity, boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.
The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water. "Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond?
Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?" Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength? Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level?
How do you handle adversity?
Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.
Posted by: Tom Asacker | March 18, 2005 at 10:12 AM
Tom, you are right- We are smart. ;-)
Maybe it's the Tao of the teabag - immersed in hot water disperses and mingles with the water, making the water "better."
You are the teabag. Be the teabag.
(grin)
Posted by: Aleah | March 19, 2005 at 10:08 AM
Those are three great questions. Your advice comes at a very good time as I must admit that my current work does not satisfy those conditions.
Time to say "adios"
Posted by: AJ Hoge | March 21, 2005 at 09:39 AM