"Old friends pass away, new friends appear. It is just like the days. An old day passes, a new day arrives. The important thing is to make it meaningful: a meaningful friend - or a meaningful day."
Or a meaningful business. In the book Destructive Emotions: How Can We Overcome Them?: A Scientific Dialogue with the Dalai Lama, the eminent psychologist Paul Ekman describes the four qualities shared by "extraordinary" people - those who excel at a range of admirable human qualities (note: other than intellectual). I believe the list to be relevant to leaders, managers and organizations as well:
1. The first is that they emanate a sense of goodness, a palpable quality of being that others notice and agree on. This goodness goes beyond some fuzzy, warm aura and reflects with integrity the true person. On this count Ekman proposed a test to weed out charlatans: In extraordinary people "there is a transparency between their personal and public life, unlike many charismatics, who have wonderful public lives and rather deplorable personal ones."
2. A second quality: selflessness. Such extraordinary people are inspiring in their lack of concern about status, fame, or ego. They are totally unconcerned with whether their position or importance is recognized. Such a lack of egoism, Ekman added, "from the psychological viewpoint, is remarkable."
3. Third is a compelling personal presence that others find nourishing. "People want to be around them because it feels good - though they can't explain why," said Ekman.
4. Finally, such extraordinary individuals have "amazing powers of attentiveness and concentration." Ekman found the Dalai Lama "one of the closest listeners I have ever encountered - he's totally concentrated. And it's contagious: When I spent those five days with him, amazingly, my mind rarely drifted for a second."